General   (General discussion, talk about anything.)

Tom:

Please let me make myself clear. As I've said before on another thread, I've "known" Tonker since 2006 and overall I've always liked him, even when he's tried to make fun of me.

Most of the time, many of his comments have been "tongue in cheek" not to be taken seriously, but even though I've never met him personally, I've been aware of a kind side to him, which he has shown on many occasions.

It doesn't matter what jobs he's done in the past, and I too have a thick skin - I've had to be - didn't give him licence to air such an insensitive comment on a public forum. I did something equally stupid many years ago and was vilified for it, and I lost a lot of nice people who had befriended me, so I made a public apology to all members for my insensitivity. I'm not excusing myself, but at that time I was grieving for my partner who had died suddenly just a couple of weeks earlier and with that came anger, frustration and other negative thoughts which comes from extreme grief, so I did apologise for it.

The reason I'm sharing that for those who read it, will perhaps understand that forgiveness is the key to show that such insensitive comments will never be repeated, and that people will learn to trust each other once more.

I feel sure that he will have realised by now how his comment angered people, and will think more carefully in future what he posts.

How about it folks?