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Started by: aitch (5487) 

What attracted you to your wife, husband or (partner), Looks, personality, money, or what, and now if you were, like me on your own again, what would attract you to someone again!!.

Started: 16th Mar 2007 at 00:23

Posted by: empress (9667) 

There wasn't a single thing I could name, we just clicked, like we already knew each other.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 00:31

Posted by: karvern (76) 

For me it was his eyes! They're so blue and inviting From his eyes it was his personality, then onto his bottom LOL Just kidding. He never turned his back to me for me to see anyway It's been absolute bliss ever since and we're in our 14th year and it's still like new! Considering you asked the question, what would attract you to someone Aitch?

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 03:55

Posted by: harold (inactive)

I just wanted get into her knickers at the time, and then just got stuck with her.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 04:00

Posted by: aussie roy (2574) 

So what you are saying Harold it was lust at first sight. In my case it was as the song goes,"It was just one those things....",but I can't rember the gossamer wings or gossamer anything else,if I was honest I would say it wasn't love at first sight,it was a relationship that just developed with time and as I have said on another thread we are still together after 45 years.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 07:17

Posted by: aitch (5487) 

I first met my wife on a foursome, but on the first date I think we both knew there was attraction, she wasn't the best looking girl around but her personality came over right away, and as I have said before in the 43 years I knew her, I never once heard her complain about her lot in life, she always had that hint of a smile that was waiting to escape, that was enough for me to know she was the one, I have never even considered what I would want from any one else but she would have to be something similar in outlook to my Alice.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 09:32

Posted by: billy (26053) 

for me...the old chemistry kicked in. much in common, and the proofs here yet. still going strong after a long long time. dont regret nuttin, would do it all again with the same woman. when she goes, if she goes first, there will not be another, she would be to hard an act to follow.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 10:21

Posted by: nicola (3236) 

All i saw was a pair of Cumbrian eyes across the steamy site hut (it was raining outside and we has a gas fire)...Then i stood and watched him dig out a trench with a mattock for forty minutes..a sign of a real man!!!

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 12:53

Posted by: jacko (1599)

NICOLA:

Remember the following:

Aye, i think Patrick came from around Birdoswald on Hadrian's wall....by god, he's a CUMBRIAN!!!!! hehehehehe..

So we know the name of YOUR Dearly Beloved.

Thanks, & have a nice day

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 16:44

Posted by: maddy (1698) 

laughter was the attraction for me and a wicked sense of humour plus his hairy chest-i`m sooooo shallow lol,seriosly his kindness,i`v been married twice before so i knew what i DIDN`T want, we both like the same things only grouch i do have is im very spontanious and him indoors has to think things through first grrrrrrrrrr

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 16:50

Posted by: billy (26053) 

he was right when he picked you maddy, so theres something to be said about not jumping in with both feet. am i right gal????

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 16:54

Posted by: maddy (1698) 

erm,im gonna contradict myself here we had only known each other a few months when he asked me to marry him, still he`s been laid back ever since(no smutty remarks please lol)

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 17:17

Posted by: fozzy (75)

Love at first sight for me. I loved everything about him and still do thirty eight years on. There will be no other if he goes first.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 18:57

Posted by: tonker (27835) 

Harold, great minds think alike.

Replied: 16th Mar 2007 at 19:13

Posted by: ozzielass (1742) 

Harold, tonker you have just shattered my illusions. It's a long time since I have been in Wigan and even longer since I went out with a Wiganner but I had begun to think that Wigan was becoming the centre of the universe when it came to romance and SNAGS (Sensitive New Age Guys).

I thought some of that sense of romance might have rubbed off from the French being even closer to them now with the Channel Tunnel. Back to the pies and pints I guess?

Replied: 17th Mar 2007 at 06:51

Posted by: jacko (1599)

Thought long and hard - should I reply to this question or not? - revisited this site many times over - came to the conclusion - yep - let others share MY HAPPIEST MOMENT with me.

And so it all started.
1959 - Hailsham, Sussex.
Saw this girl - nurses uniform - very attractive - great figure - great walk.

Went to a friend whose girl-friend was also a nurse - to the two of them - I gave the best description I could. Taylors girl-friend said "That description fits Kiely".

It was agreed that the two of them would ask Kiely to the coffee bar - next day.
I was to go in afterwards - if that was the girl then I should go over and sit with them - and if it wasnt - I should sit elsewhere.

I went in - she, as in Kiely, was sat with them - after introductions and not too long after that, John & his girlfriend got up to leave. Shit, I thouht, Kiely will leave also.
She stayed - she was off duty that day.

We chatted - nothing special - looked at each other - chanced my arm and asked for a date that evening. She accepted, I went back to work - couldnt work - dreaming and clock watching.

Collected her at the hospital - I was early - she turned up - on time - she was an absolute cracker, couldnt believe my luck.

Went to the cinema - "Summer Place" was a recent release - walked her back to the hospital - afraid to hold hands or put my arm around her - just in case she disappeared - we sat down on a bench in the grounds of the hospital - we talked and talked about nothing. Still no holding hands or arm/s around her. Was I a learner or what - thats a joke - I was 15 when that happened - now I'm 19 and I dont know how to handle this girl at my side.

I blurted out "will you marry me"? I repeated instantaneously "will you marry me".
Back came the reply - with a Kiely laughing - "I heard you the first time - still laughing she said "do you have a stammer", and said yes is the answer to both questions, and that was before I could tell her I didnt have a stammer.
She also asked, had she been set up by me and the other 2 people - I sheepishly said yes (thar ya go agin - ye and ya sheep).

Later in life - when asked by our children - as kids do - Kiely always told them - "your father & I agreed to marry - and we had never held hands upto that point - let alone kiss" - she didnt smoke nor drank and wouldnt come with me on the motor bike - so the bike went. I can say it was a couple of years later before Kiely would allow me to get "that" close - I was her first, yep, I can still remember when and where - but not the date - evening time.

Even to this day - the lads - with their wives ask - "Dad, tell us about the time you first met Mam".
Kiley became her PET name - and used that throughout the 42 years together.

Many, many, many happy stories - and memories.
Miss her like hell.

So thats how I met my wife. It was love at first sight - mutual. Maddly in love.

That was then - this is now.

HAPPY PADDY's DAY TO ONE & ALL.
Ya bunch o' shysters ya.

Now back tu mi sheep.




Replied: 17th Mar 2007 at 07:48
Last edited by jacko: 17th Mar 2007 at 07:58:37

Posted by: disco_diva (inactive)

That was a lovely time of your life to share with us all Jacko.
Has for Harold, i hope that your missus does not read your reply.

Replied: 17th Mar 2007 at 13:57

Posted by: rnicky74 (1295) 

Thanks for sharing that with us Jacko, it was a lovely story. I myself eas a bit more shallow i'm afraid. The first part of my husband i saw was his bum and i commented to my best friend how nice it was, she in turn bet me 20 quid i couldn't pull him!! well a girl has to take on the challenge. That was 15 years ago and we have two great kids and are still very happy.

Replied: 17th Mar 2007 at 16:53

Posted by: ozzielass (1742) 

Lovely story Jacko, good to see a man can be in touch with his true feelings and share them with others. You probably don't feel it but you are lucky to have had that kind of love for so many years.

Replied: 18th Mar 2007 at 06:38

Posted by: john joseph (3197)

I was attracted to both my partners cos of their vunerability

I can`t say "love" or "Lust" played any part, I just felt I could Improve their live`s and being a good christian man It required a marriage and commitment
my first marriage was for 25yrs and my 2nd for 15yrs

Its like tending flowers you first help it by planting it then you need to look after it you get lots of pleasure just watching it bloom and then looking after it little plants

JJ

Replied: 18th Mar 2007 at 08:07

Posted by: nicola (3236) 

Jacko, he swore his name was Martin....any hoo, got any suffolks in them sheep o yours?

Replied: 19th Mar 2007 at 16:20

Posted by: b8mex (299) 

I just looked across the room and that was it. I knew it was love ..........

It took me ages to realise I was looking in a bloomin' mirror.

Replied: 19th Mar 2007 at 22:14
Last edited by b8mex: 19th Mar 2007 at 22:39:31

Posted by: madamehmurray (6273) 

Well I went for another guy to make him jealous. I didn't think that he would go for me because of the age between us. I thought he was too short but I grow to love him. I didn't know that he was the guy from the roller rink place I used to skate it. I loved his facial hair and his weird shaped eyes. He used to go to see his mother all the time, The first time I asked if I could go with him to see her. He left her and I alone talking for an hour. She liked me and that was the end of it. A month later he proposed and five months later we were married. Age really never bothered me as long as you love the person. He set me up with one of my ex boyfriends I didn't no til we were engaged. He is my little Furray Murray

Replied: 19th Mar 2007 at 22:22

Posted by: andie9469 (255) 

I thought I would get wiser as I got older but no still attracted to the wrong kind

Replied: 19th Mar 2007 at 22:37

Posted by: madamehmurray (6273) 

The day he popped the? It was a week before mother's day and we went to the jewelry store. I thought he was buying something for his mom, but it was for me. It's nothing too fancy but I love it. then We went to his mom's, I told him he had to do this right. He got down on his knee and right in front of our two favorite people his mom and his older sister. I was so happy, and in love so I said yes. It was may 4th 2006 at 4:00 pm

Replied: 19th Mar 2007 at 22:47

Posted by: zoe24 (2272) 

a drunken night in wigan attracted me 2 my fella..lol..but we still together 8 years later

Replied: 19th Mar 2007 at 23:43

Posted by: mollie m (7076) 

If I'm honest, what attracted me to the man I married was the fact that he was a total gentleman. Stood up when I walked into the room and terrific manners. Plus the fact that he was kind and protective of me. He was gentle and loving and wore a uniform. Sounds great doesn't it? Sadly, though it became aggravating as I grew older and felt that I was being smothered. My next partner - well - what attracted him to me was more physical. His gorgeous smile with lovely strong teeth, muscular arms (like Popeye's), quietly spoken and tall, but he's selfish. I'm on my own too now (temporarily, no doubt about that) but my ideal person would be a mixture of the two. Cawn't get nowt right, me!

Replied: 20th Mar 2007 at 01:07

Posted by: john joseph (3197)

Mollie M

They say all ladies like men in uniform

I didn't have much luck though,

do you think maybe those "Arrows" all over mine was a "put off"

JJ

Replied: 20th Mar 2007 at 09:07

Posted by: jacko (1599)

Morning to all. – Now for some humour, born out of tragedy.

This is my first viewing – this topic -since I last posted.
Parts of what are to follow – may come across or be interpreted as me being morbid – that would be wrong – as I type out this – I’m smiling to a point of laughing because I know what’s to follow.

As heart-wrenching as it was at the time when Kiely passed away – 12.30 pm 30th Oct 2001. She died at home – had one operation for cancer – was home recuperating and without warning – she passed away. Two sons & I were with her at the time – we were talking – Kiely, during these conversations, was nodding her head and smiling. Then.

The lads (all 7) asked if Ma could be “waked” at home – rather than a funeral parlour.
I agreed – no problem with that. Neighbours in and out, going up to the bedroom, staying with Kiely – saying prayers, bringing sandwiches, bringing drinks – having drinks – you know something – the Irish certainly know how to “Wake” a person. There are no invitations here, you simply turn up. That’s the scene –

Now I’ll tell you the funny parts, and there’s more than one

Having 7 children – 1 girl, 6 boys, and in that order.
One of the kids had been away – school trip – as kids do – they came back with a present for their Ma, its was a pair of pottery figures – Male & Female – The Man was holding a chicken under his arm – the woman had a bunch of carrots in her arms – they were the ugliest things you could clap your eyes on. Kiely said something about them being beautiful – she knew that I knew – they were horrible – and she placed one at each side of the bed. Her joke at the time was – when we wake up in the morning – we should look at the figures and say – well it makes you look better.
They became the brunt of many a joke between us.

Even to the point that if I went first, “they were going down with me” – likewise with Kiely.

Then came the day of the funeral – Kiely was laid-out, in her favourite clothes – and was dressed by Sherrie (daughter) and a couple of daughters-in-law.
The undertaker was a brother-in-law of Simon, one of the sons. Simon had told him, before you close the lid – dad wants to do something.
So when they were ready – they called me – I placed the 2 figures at the side of Kiely – saying “see, I told you where they were going”..

At the actual burial – and before soil and flowers were thrown down to the coffin – the next stage was – OK dad, called the lads – I went up, took out my pipe and knife – and emptied my pipe onto the coffin lid. I could hear the lads telling the people “why” this was happening – It was something that dad had always said he would do – and Kiely had worked out her own arrangements if it had been the other way around.
I could now hear people laughing – patting me on the back and shoulders. Good on ya Jack – Women could be heard saying, what they were going to do to their husbands.

The lads had made arrangements that refreshments were being served at the golf club – no joke – a couple of hundred – but that’s Ireland for you, an open invitation.

Now everyone was at the club – inside and outside. Nigel appeared holding a microphone – asking Phil – the steward – is the PA on – yeah shouted back Phil – my 7 lads got together and said, dad, WE have a present for you which YOU know Mam would dearly love you to have – it will help you to remember her, and so dad, please come up here.
Me thinking, what the feck is going on, what are they upto.
I went up, Adrian the eldest fella presented me with “THAT female figure” the undertaker had removed it after I had placed it with Kiely – then gave it to one of the sons – the lads (obviously rehearsed) shouted out – Pay Back time dad – that’s going down with you when your time comes – that’s what Mam would have wanted. Now you’ve got it. One of my sisters was crying with laughter.

Jeysus, there was more laughing from the people, than what you would get at a wedding – and this was a funeral, an Irish funeral.

I held that ugly figure high, and laughed with them – its now back at the side of my bed – where Kiely first placed it. Kiely had the last say after all. Did she?
Na its wuz them fecking sons o’mine, but with Ma looking down she would have laughed her head off.

God bless all o ya.




Replied: 20th Mar 2007 at 09:57

 

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